Yours and Mine
I sometimes wish
i could just be anonymous,
walk down on street
just like everyone else.
Before i was famous
i was a girl
on the heel with a guitar.
I was a girl that just wanted
beautiful view of the beach.
And now that i'm famous
it's really difficult to do
very simple things.
I think it's the hardest thing
to give up, but my mother
always taught me to be strong
and to never be a victim.
Never make excuses.
Never expect anyone else
to provide for me,
things i know that i can
provide for myself.
I have dreams
and i feel like
i have a power to
actually make those dreams
become a reality.
When you're famous
no one looks at you
as a human anymore.
You become the property of the public.
There's nothing real about it.
You can't put your finger
on who i am,
i can put my finger on who i am.
I am complicated,
I grew up with a lot of
conflicts and traums and
i've been through a lot,
just like everyone else.
Mu escape was always music,
and i am so lucky that that's my job.
But if i complex all of this things
and had no one to share with
it would be worth nothing.
You know you need something real
and order of any of this stuff to matter.
You have to have something
that is forever,
something invisible.
I was bright up
seeing my mother
tried please,
and make everyone comfortable
and i'm always feel like it was my job
fix problem.
People-pleaser.
But i am no longer
afraid of conflict
and i do not think like
conflict is bad thing.
Cause i know that
when you grow up
when you learn a few things
you are no longer afraid
of letting go.
You are no longer afraid of the unknown.
You are no longer afraid of going to
certain places in your body
and your mind
and your soul that may
make you uncomfortable.
And it all started with
if you can look at yourself in the mirror,
you say 'I like that person, you know'.
If i had gone through,
you know, some of the
painful experiences in my life,
i would not be me.
I feel like my life is borrow
in this life is very temporary.
I watched my friend's body
deteriorate and to watch
someone pass on so gracefully
put everything in perspective.
We do not value ourselves enough,
especially young people
don't really appreciate
how brilliant our bodies are.
I've always been
very specific and very choosy
about what i do with my body
and who i wanna share it with.
People think they lose something
when they get married,
but it doesnt have to be that way.
There is nothing more exciting
about having a witness to your life.
I always considered myself
a feminist although
i was always afraid of that word
because people put so much on it.
When, honestly, it's very simple.
It's a person who believes in
equality for man and women.
Minium balance each other out
and we have to get to a point
where we are comfortable
with appreciating each other.
I have a lot of empathy for men
and the pressures that they go
through in the cultures
that have been created
especially for african-american men.
I have the same empathy for
women and the pressures
we go through.
The woman has to provide
so many things for their children.
I consider myself
a humanist.
You know, everybody is not
good at everything,
you know,it's okay to
depend on someone.
It's actually what we're supposed to do.
We're supposed to depend each other,
and when you find the person
that you trust and you love
and you feel is going to respect you
and tak all of the shit you have
and turn it around
and bring out the best in you,
it feeds you.
It is the most powerful thing
that you can ever feel in your life.
Happiness comes from you.
No one else can make you happy.
You make you happy.
And one thing that's for sure
the love i have,
the music,
from my husband,
from my child,
it's something that
will last far behind in my life.
